Grief Support

About grief

Grief is a natural response to losing someone you love. It affects everyone differently and can bring up a mix of emotions like sadness, anger, guilt, or even numbness. You might also feel physically drained and have trouble sleeping, thinking clearly, or feeling detached from the world around you.

Grief takes time. It’s common for people to feel the effects for years, and certain dates like birthdays, holidays, or anniversaries can be especially tough. There’s no “right” way to grieve, and no set timeline.

Be kind to Yourself

Grief is like being on a roller-coaster, your emotions can change from day to day or even hour to hour. When grieving, we need to be kind to ourselves and not make judgements on our own behaviour. If you find yourself having a good day, enjoy it, the next day could be completely different.

Children and Grief

Children grieve too, just in their own way. Talking to children about death and the feelings that come with the death of someone you love is important. In the words of Dr Alan Wolfelt ‘if you are old enough to love, you are old enough to grieve’ so age appropriate talks with children can help them navigate the many feelings they may experience.

For example:

  • Around ages 3–4 they may not understand everything but will notice someone is missing. Including them in family rituals if they wish to,  can make them feel important and acknowledge their part in the family.
  • For those Under 3 who need routine and close care, gentle talking about what they are seeing in front of them may bring comfort. They will see their family members upset, crying, even a little agitated or distracted,  and they do notice those changes in those closest to them – simple explanations about ‘Mummy is feeling sad today because Grandpa has died may alleviate their fears even if they don’t understand the concept – they just want to know you are ok.
  • Older children may copy how adults react, but still need space and support to process their own feelings – giving them permission to do what they need or not need to do is important. Asking them is the crucial step here and there are often ideas and suggestions your funeral director can offer to include older children in the organising and be part of the funeral itself.

How to Support Someone Who’s Grieving

  • Accept their feelings without judgement, no matter how long grief lasts.
  • Offer practical help—like meals, errands, or childcare.
  • Don’t wait for them to ask for support—many won’t.
  • Stay in touch with gentle check-ins (with their permission).
  • Most importantly, let them grieve in their own way and at their own pace.

Grief is deeply personal. Just being there kindly and consistently can mean everything.

Finding the Words

People who are grieving need to know you will not judge or devalue their feelings by using clichés such as ‘at least he didn’t suffer’. What you can say to a grieving person is something like ‘I wish I had the words to ease the pain you are going through right now’

Support Services

We all need a helping hand, particularly at a time of uncertainty, grief and bereavement. If you or somene you know is struggling with loss, the following organisations offer trusted support. While we support the service providers we do not affiliate ourselves with any particular group. This list is provided for assistance only. 

Resources

Grief doesn’t follow a schedule. On some days you may laugh, others cry and both are valid. Explore articles and stories that help you make sense of it all.

It’s alright to cry

Grief doesn’t follow rules and neither should you. From tears to silence, learn why expressing emotion is not weakness, but a powerful step toward healing.

Helping children deal with grief

One of the most difficult situations adults have to face is telling children that someone they love has died.

Grief and social media

Social media is reshaping how we grieve, from memorial posts to legacy accounts. Explore how the digital world is helping people mourn, remember, and heal.

Facing grief on Father's Day

Navigating grief is hard at the best of times, but especially on days like Father’s Day. Here are some suggestions to find comfort while grieving.

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